How many times as a
writer do we just toss in the towel and walk away. We think “Nobody is going to
look at my blog,” or “How can anybody even hear me, above a thousand voices?” I
tell you, don’t give up.
My daughter was a big
inspiration to me: when she was in school, her teacher told her not to be her
worst critic. She would come home, and I would be writing or painting or
playing music, and I would be saying “I am no good, I should just quit.”
My daughter would put
her hand on my shoulder and say, “Daddy, don’t be your worst critic.”
Well, I have to say,
the criticism I have given my self has caused me to cap my pen, put my paints
away and fold my music stand. I gave up on it all - why, because I didn’t think
I was good enough.
Back in 2004, I was
challenged by a co-worker to write a short story. He did not think I could
write a short story in 24 hours. I came up with a story line, composed the
story on my way home, sat down at my computer and wrote a 4800 word short
story. Printed it out and took it to him the next day. I just wanted to prove
him wrong, but it created a spark.
Two years later, I
picked that story back up, and turned it into a novel. I worked really hard on
the novel, and then I self-published it. I was in love with the book, and I had
dreams of making it big as a novelist. However, my book never sold.
People I let read the book gave me feedback of: “Wow, you should donate this to
a sleep center, because it could cure insomnia,” and “So did your third grader
write this, you must be so proud.”
I was crushed. My
book, my baby was being scorned. I was not going to be deterred, my first book
was not well accepted, but I will try again. So I wrote more,(not publishing of
course) and nothing ever was accepted. I then capped my pen, and decided to
never write again. I gave up!
I tried again to write
after I had brain surgery. What brought me back? Well I love writing, and I
missed it. I never publicized the blog, so once again - I capped my pen. But I
still missed writing.
This last time, after
taking test after test, I was pointed to writing and storytelling. So I started
up again. This time, I have had over a thousand page views in a month (BTW
Thanks for that), and I feel encouraged. I have also started another book -
with my wife’s insistence, but the most important thing to remember – mistakes are
learning opportunities; learning from your missteps in the past, will help you
avoid them in the future.
I guess what I am
saying is: We are artists, we do ink play, we paint with words, invoking
thoughts are our canvas and words are powerful. We need to do what we do best,
and when you stop; you silence your own voice.
Quit smoking, quit
doing drugs, quit drinking, quit bad relationships and bad jobs, but don’t quit
writing. Never give up! Never, never give up your voice.
Never give up. Great advice!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comments.
DeleteIt is hard to not give up if you're having too many or the wrong expectations.
ReplyDeleteOf course when being a writer and you have to earn your income by it is a different story.
But a blog,well, the main reason should be that you love to do what you do. And if you can inspire others, well that's a win win I guess but not a must.
Great post!
I have heard, shoot for the stars, because you will have falling room. Expectations can be over inflated, and they can be even grandiose at times, but unless you are trying to do something against nature; I don't believe expectations can be wrong. There is a crunch time when you are writing for your daily bread (something I am trying to break into) but still you should not give up. The only time you should maybe think about doing something else, is if you really don't like what you are doing, and that goes for anything you do.
DeleteThanks for the post!